In December 2015, I wrote a blog where I set a goal to do 52 new things in 2016. I turned 52 in April, so it was a fun time to accomplish my “52 at 52.”
It was an interesting exercise for me. I kept a list, and although there would be no one to “audit” my list, I found myself a bit critical as to whether or not certain actions were “good enough” to be added. I rode in a helicopter, shot a gun, walked on a glacier, and wrote a book, so was it “enough” to add that I tried a new food or went to a new restaurant?
A friend of mine told me she took this challenge a couple of years ago with a group of her college friends. They shared their “new thing” at the end of each week, and she felt judged. It was so much pressure for her to worry if her “new thing” was going to be good enough? It is fascinating to me that we do this to ourselves. The goal was meant to be fun, to try new adventures, foods, activities, create new habits, or simply be open to some change; yet, our natural drives can lead us to be critical and judgmental.
It reminds me of my favorite quote from Donald Clifton, founder of the StrengthsFinder movement:
“What will happen when we think about what is right with people rather than fixating on what is wrong with them?”
And not just “other people,” right? It’s ourselves as well!
So, here’s my list; you can judge it if you’d like, but I hope you use it for ideas to try something new in 2017 and just be open to it, and not judgmental.
My goal for 2017? To spend a lot more time thinking about what is right – with me, my team, Purple Ink, my family, all others and all situations – than I spend fixating on what is wrong. I’ll keep you posted on my success, but I challenge you to do the same!